Our Lady of the Lake is your extended family and we are here to support you through prayer and pastoral care. When planning a funeral, contact the parish office at 503-636-7687 so that we may help you make funeral arrangements. Some of the materials on this page will be helpful to you in the planning process. Click on the links below to access the different resources.
Selecting Scripture Readings
We encourage you to select readings for the funeral. The following is a list of common funeral readings, but you are by no means limited to these suggestions; although the readings do need to be from Scripture. You will also be given "Through Death to Life" to guide you through the process.
See Scripture Selections
Our music coordinator will help you with choosing music for the funeral. In the funeral liturgy there several opportunities for hymns:
- The Gathering Song [when we enter the church]
- The Song at the Presentation of the Gifts
- The Song at Communion
- Song of Farewell [just before we leave the church]
- The Closing Song.
Words of Remembrance
The Liturgy of the Rite of Christian Burial moves our hearts and minds from “memory” to “hope.” Jesus Christ, by his life, death and resurrection has given us the “hope” of eternal life. In a significant way, our prayer today is not centered on the life the deceased “lived” but on the hope for the life we “hope” they will live. This funeral is our prayer for the reward of eternal life for our loved one.
Here are a few guidelines for offering Words of Remembrance. First, note that longer moments of eulogy are appropriate at the Wake. Also, the Words of Remembrance is an option! No family should feel pressured to choose this option. Here are a few more:
WHEN: Shared at the end of the funeral. At Our Lady of the Lake, the words of remembrance are offered at the end of the funeral liturgy in the church. The priest/deacon will welcome the person to the podium.
WHO: One person speaking for no more than five minutes. We remind the family that this liturgy is not a “Memorial” but one of HOPE in resurrection. It is helpful to have a person offer a few words of reflection on the life and gift of the person, but especially sharing about the FAITH of the person. It is their faith (and ours) that brings us to the church this day.
WRITTEN: Prepared Text. The words of remembrance should be written out or typed. Experience shows that “extemporaneous” talks tend to ramble and lose focus. One or Two type-written pages, double-spaced, provides a well-centered timely reflection.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is cremation permitted by the Catholic Church?
Since 1963, the Church has permitted cremation as long as the Church's teaching on the resurrection of the body is upheld.
How are the rites celebrated for someone who chooses cremation?
The Church prefers that the body be present for the Funeral Liturgy and cremated following the Final Commendation of the Liturgy. However, it is possible to celebrate the Funeral Liturgy in the presence of cremated remains. A table is provided for the urn, a picture of the deceased and a small bouquet of flowers.
What rites can be used for miscarried or stillborn infants?
"Funeral Rites may be celebrated for children whose parents intended them to be Baptized but who died before Baptism. In these celebrations the Christian community entrusts the child to God's all-embracing love." (Order of Christian Funeral #237)
What rites can be used for a suicide victim?
This person is entrusted to God's love and mercy and is therefore entitled to the usual Funeral Rites.
What is done for a lapsed Catholic?
By virtue of Baptism this person is entitled to the prayers of the Church including the Funeral Rites.
What is the proper place for the Funeral Rites?
The Vigil service is celebrated in the presence of the body either in the funeral home or the Parish Church the night before. The Funeral Mass is always celebrated in the Church. The Committal Rite is preferably celebrated at the grave or the tomb.
Why is the grave or tomb the preferred site for the Rite of Committal?
The grave or tomb is preferred because the prayers from the ritual express clearly the finality of placing the body in the ground or in the tomb.