Mentor or "Sponsor" Couple
What makes our marriage preparation unique is that you are asked to choose your own marriage mentor couple who will accompany you during marriage preparation and throughout your first few years of marriage. Here are a few requirements for a mentor couple:
As an engaged couple, it is a great opportunity to witness to sacrificial, enduring marital love that is filled. It is beautiful to see a model of married love you can point to and say, “There it is! There is someone living out marriage in a way that I admire and desire for myself.”
This mentor or sponsor couple also gives you a concrete connection and integration into parish life. Through the sharing of the sponsor couples’ own marriage journey, you inherit a “lifeline” to experience the Church not as strangers, but as a committed and life-giving family of faith.
Email: Deacon Kevin Welch
Phone: (503) 636-7687
Steps to discerning:
Make sure to pray about your choice.
Who can challenge you to have a better marriage? Do they have a strong relationship with Christ?
Are they the couple you would go to naturally if you needed relationship help in the future?
Do you like the way their kids turned out?
Would you be happy if you had a marriage relationship like theirs?
Discuss what it is specifically that you admire about their marriage. It doesn’t matter if you know them really well, but it does matter that you trust and admire them. If you get stuck, ask your parish for suggestions but remember that you still need to invite a couple to mentor/sponsor you. Just ask!